Attraction To Women
Q: Can it be possible to see other women as sexy and attractive without being bisexual? I can find lesbian porn arousing, but not something I would engage in.
A: Absolutely! Just because we see someone of the same gender and can say that they are sexy does not mean that we want to have sex with them. Research shows that straight women can be aroused by just about any kind of porn (lesbian, gay, straight, etc.). One of the reasons women find lesbian porn arousing is that the focus is usually on oral sex—the one thing most women enjoy and that brings them to orgasm. There is less focus on penetrative sex and more on clitoral stimulation. Orientation in general is based on multiple factors—who we want to have sex with, who we fall in love with, who we fantasize about, and how we identify.
Was I Born With A Foot Fetish?
Q: I had my first wet dream very early in life. Soon after, I started to fantasize about my teacher’s feet. She wore black stockings most of the time to class along with heels. I really had no idea what was up with that attraction, but it became the centerpiece of masturbation fantasies. Where did this foot fetish come from? It wasn’t learned behavior. I lived a very sheltered life in the 1960s. The foot fetish seemingly came out of nowhere.
A: No, it did not come out of nowhere. You just described how you were drawn to your teachers’ feet/legs/stockings. Many boys crush on their teachers, and you may have simply focused on her legs. Then when you had the dream about her, you paired the feet with arousal. This pairing is one hypothesis of how a person develops a foot fetish. Growing up in the 60s in a conservative environment, you probably saw very little skin. What you did see was black stockings on legs. This may have triggered you to fantasize about what was beneath these stockings. We often think about and fantasize about things that are seemingly taboo.